"Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you." - John 16:7 (NKJV)
"And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit," - Eph 5:18 (NKJV)
According to the scriptures, Jesus believes that we are better off when we have the Spirit within us at all times. In Ephesians 5:18, the word "filled" in Greek means letting ourselves to be continually filled with the Holy Spirit.
That is why best-selling author Gary Thomas states that difficult times in marriage can be beneficial to our faith walk. It teaches us to rely on the Holy Spirit. He doesn't believe that marriage is easy. He doesn't believe that seeing his own sin reveled in his marriage is easy; or that dealing with his wife's and kids' sins is easy.
Yet, anything that teaches him to rely on the Holy Spirit, is helping him to live the essence of the Christian life!
Many people think that Christianity is trying harder or doing more on their own. Jesus promises the Holy Spirit because He knew that we would be able to go further when we run together WITH God, then we could ever hope to go when we run AFTER God.
When faced when troubling times and difficult times in our marriage, why not ask for more love and grace from God?
Lord, help me to love more.
Lord, help me to notice my family more.
When was the last time you've asked God to give you what you need for your marriage, for your parenting? Pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you, lighten you, empower you and direct you. Don't stop praying.
The challenges of marriage and parenting will never be over. Just because God helps you to get through one issue or challenge on Monday, it does not mean that you don't need His strength and help on Tuesday, Wednesday. Thursday and so on!
When God has kindly and graciously given you a relationship that requires you to rely on Him at home, then you will also start to rely on Him in public.
Truth is, the more you rely on God, the more successful and fulfilling life will be for you.
Let the challenges in marriage push you into God's arms.
It is a safe place for the best life possible.