Do you sometimes offend others because you do not engage your brain before shifting your tongue into drive? Have you ever made a commitment to God or man without giving it much consideration and later reneged on it? God does not want us to be flaky. He expects us to keep our promises to Him and to others.
King Solomon, one of the wisest men who ever lived, admonished in Proverbs 29:20: Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him. The communication of the hasty tongue is done too quickly to be thoughtful or wise.
No matter how godly we are, we will eventually offend somebody because of hasty speech. Since we can never be totally aware of all of the sensitivities of others, we must depend upon the guidance of the Holy Spirit to direct our speech in a way that does not tap into their pain, distress, or other negative experiences.
Seeing that I was plagued by the malady of hasty speech, one of my mentors admonished me, "Stop, think and pray before you speak." I've tried to heed her advice but I've often failed mis-er-a-bly! James, the Lord's brother, said it best. "Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak…"
Have you ever wondered why God gave us two ears and one mouth? Perhaps we are to spend twice as much time listening than talking. A good pause would serve us well in the long run. Words never die and spoken words can never be recovered. We must take time to weigh our words before we release them. Stop, think, and pray!